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Question:  "Is it wrong for a couple to "cohabitate" or live together before they are married?"

Answer:  The answer depends somewhat on what you mean by “living together.” If you mean having sexual relations – it is definitely sinful.  Premarital sex is repeatedly condemned in Scripture along with all other forms of sexual immorality (Acts 15:20; Rom 1:29; 1 Cor 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 12:21; Gal 5:19; Eph 5:3; Col 3:5; 1Thess 4:3; Jude 7).  The Bible promotes complete abstinence outside of (and before) marriage.  Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to.

If by cohabiting you only mean living in the same house, that is perhaps somewhat of a different issue.  Ultimately, there is nothing wrong for a man and a woman to live in the same house – IF there is nothing immoral taking place.  However, the problem arises in that there is still the appearance of immorality (Ephesians 5:3) and it will be a tremendous temptation for immorality.  People will think that the two of you are sleeping together no matter what you say – that is just the nature of things.  Even though you may not be doing anything wrong by living in the same house, you are still giving the appearance of sin by “living together.”  God knows your heart and your conduct.  However, since the Bible tells us to avoid the appearance of evil (Ephesians 5:3), it would definitely be best for you to find separate living arrangements – for appearance sake – until you are married.

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Posted by: quietning at 07/27/05 07:20 | link | comments (5)

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#1  27 July 2005 - 12:25

 

Eph 5:3 But evil acts of the flesh and all unclean things, or desire for others' property, let it not even be named among you, as is right for saints;

yangzi

#2  27 July 2005 - 13:10

 

God's word is right.
And humman beings are so weak.
It's a rather tough exam.

quietning

#3  27 July 2005 - 21:52

 

It's funny you wrote this today.

We have lived together for 2+ years, but we didn't do anything immoral. However, when I tell my friends, none of them believe me. That's when I feel like I had no one to talk to... But you know what? I know myself and God knows.

Even though he and I are no longer together, and I am heart breaking, but I think it's a good thing for me to move out and start a new life.

Life is just really hard. I am glad you are here telling me God's words.

wymm

#4  29 July 2005 - 06:47

 

wyymm,you are a amzing girl!

Indeed,I just moved in last saturday and moved out on the next day after the church,cause I don't think I can keep away from the "immoral" things.
I didn't think that cohabitate is a thing untill our friends told us.
We have got the marriage certificate and plan for the wedding in the near furture.Moving back to my old place is a easy thing,but apart from the one you love is painful.
I think move out is also a good thing.It give me time to think and feel what love is.

quietning

#5  01 August 2005 - 23:08

 

thanks for your words, Quietning. You are blessed by God. She is a lucky girl. :)

wymm

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